7 Simple Steps to Self Care this Season

Though January can feel gloomy and dark, now is the time to create happy habits and focus on building a better life -- one day at a time. Even when the sun shine isn't with us, try to find ways to nurture your inner light.

You are not given a healthy life, you create it one day at a time. A simple place to start is to take a look at your daily habits and see where you can find any room for improvement.

 

1. Eat fresh, whole food as often as much as possible. My favorite healthy addition to my diet is Shakeology--full of vitamins, antioxidants, probiotics, healthy proteins, and SO MUCH MORE! If you're into supplements, I personally recommend Lifelong Vitality as a well-rounded addition to a healthy diet. 
2. Move your body, shake out the stiffness and get your heart pumping. Join me for a workout with BeachBody On Demand! Try this energizing and simple Breath of Joy practice to feel more energized and joyful. 
3. REST. When in doubt, nap. If your body is craving sleep, don't deny it. Seriously, rest. 
4. Deal with your stress in healthy ways, like meditation, yoga, an essential oil, or taking a bath.
5. Look closely at the products you come into contact with on a daily basis. Your skin is the largest organ in your body. What's in your soap? Shampoo? Whatever comes into contact with it, can easily enter your bloodstream. Make sure you feel good about that. Same with your sense of smell and taste. 
6. Listen to your body and give it what it needs. When you feel fatigued and achy, take that extra step to care for yourself by using an immune booster like OnGuard+ softgels or Frankincense essential oil. Treat it before it turns into something. 
7. Know when it's time for extra help. When in doubt, call your health care provider and talk through any issues that you are experiencing. 

Remember, your body is a powerful tool designed to heal itself. Support it with what it needs -- take care of it and it will take care of you!

Balance Chakras with Essential Oils

All living things are created by energy and made of energy. 

You are energy. 

Chakras, by definition, are energy centers within the human body that help to regulate all its processes, from organ function to the immune system and emotions. The ability for your energy centers to function optimally is what keeps you psychologically, emotionally, physically, and spiritually balanced.

Seven chakras are positioned throughout your body, from the base of your spine to the crown of your head. Each chakra has its own vibrational frequency, color, and governs specific functions that keep your body, mind, and spirit functioning optimally. 

The term chakra is Sanskrit for “wheel." These energy wheels transport life force energy throughout the body to promote balance from the inside out. When these wheels are spinning and distributing energy, you are balanced and healthy. When these chakras are blocked, they are unable to transport energy where it needs to go. (also read: Ayurveda and Essential Oils)

A blocked chakra can show in the form of emotional imbalance, mental problems, illness or physical pain, immune deficiency, and other forms of imbalance. 

Balancing the chakras is a process that takes time, concentration, and dedication. You must work from the bottom up - beginning with the Root chakra moving upward and ending with the Crown chakra. 

There are many approaches to balancing the chakras including yoga, meditation, acupuncture, and mantra to name a few. Essential oils can prove a powerful catalyst in achieving balance in the chakras. I use dōTERRA Essential Oils because of their purity and potency. All of the essential oils mentioned below can be found here. Learn more about Essential Oils here.

    The Root Chakra

Our foundation and feeling of being grounded

• Purpose: Survival, Security, Stability
• Location: Base of spine 
• Signs of Imbalance: Fearful, Insecure, Confused, Constipation, Lower back pain - issues with legs, feet, knees, groin, hips, ankles - frequent illness
• Muladhara is the most instinctual of all chakras — it is your survival center.
• Color: Red
• Mantra: I am peaceful, protected and secure
• Essential Oils: Balance Grounding Blend (creates a sense of calm and well-being) Basil, Cedarwood, Cilantro, Myrrh, Patchouli, Vetiver, White Fir, On Guard, AromaTouch 
• Apply topically to the bottoms of the feet and sacrum.

   The Sacral Chakra

Our connection and ability to accept others and new experiences

• Purpose: Authentic Creation, Soul Fire, Sexuality
• Location: Lower abdomen, slightly below the navel
• Signs of imbalance: Sexual Problems or Dysfunction, Fear of Sexual or Emotional Intimacy, Infidelity, Needy or Wiithdrawn, Disorders of reproductive organs, infertility, urinary system, spleen, gallbladder, kidney, lack of flexibility
• Svadhishthana is the center of your creativity, desire, emotion, sexuality, and intuition. 
• Color: Orange
• Mantra: I am radiant, beautiful and strong and enjoy a healthy and passionate life
• Essential oils: Citrus Bliss Invigorating Blend (elevates mood and reduces stress), Black Pepper, Cinnamon, Tangerine, Wild Orange, Bergamot, Clary Sage, Patchouli, Sandalwood, Ylang Ylang
• Apply topically below the navel.

 The Solar Plexus Chakra

Our ability to be confident and in-control of our lives.

• Purpose: Power, Self Worth, Self Confidence
• Location: Upper abdomen in the stomach area, slightly above the navel
• Signs of Imblance: Low self-esteem or arrogance, Egotistical behavior, Feeling abandoned or rejected or feeling the world revolves around you, Difficulty understanding or controlling emotions, Rebellious or too eager to please, Nervous or Stressed out, Addictive behaviors including eating disorders, hypoglycemia, diabetes, eczema, acne, food allergies, chronic fatigue, depression, pancreas, gallbladder, liver issues
• Manipura guides you through life by creating a strong sense of self
• Color: Yellow
• Mantra: I am positively empowered and successful in all my ventures. I do not allow anger and emotions to control my life
• Essential oils: DigestZen (maintains healthy digestive system), Bergamot, Cassia, Clove, Coriander, Fennel, Ginger, Grapefruit, Juniper Berry, Wintergreen, Slim & Sassy, Black Pepper, Cedarwood, Cinnamon, Geranium, Cypress, Lemongrass, Peppermint, Ylang Ylang
• Apply topically below the sternum, above the stomach.

   The Heart Chakra

Our ability to love.

• Purpose: Love, Joy, Inner Peace
• Location: Center of chest
• Signs of Imbalance: Unable to Give or Receive Unconditional Love, Selfish, Jealous, Hateful, Grief Stricken, Excessive Loneliness, Depression, Disorders or the heart, lungs, thymus, breasts, arms, premature aging, upper back pain, circulation problems, asthma, immune system deficiency
• Anahata creates vulnerability, anxiety and dependency but also unconditional love and self love
• Color: Green
• Mantra: I give and receive love effortlessly and unconditionally
• Essential oil: Breathe Respiratory Blend (soothes airways and promotes clear breathing), Eucalyptus, Geranium, Lime, Marjoram, Melaleuca, Peppermint, Rose, Thyme, Ylang Ylang, Serenity, Elevation, Lavender, Melissa, Sandalwood
• Apply topically to the center of the chest at heart level.

   The Throat Chakra

Our ability to communicate.

• Purpose: Communication, Speaking the Truth, Holdings Secrets
• Location: Center of the Neck/Throat
• Signs of Imblance: Poor Communication Skills, Afraid to Speak Up/Represses Feelings, Uncontrolled Verbal Outbursts, Deceitful, Manipulative, Shy or Talks Excessively, Unable to Listen, Fear of offending others, gossiping, loud or dominating voice, tendency to interrupt
• Vishuddha is also linked to our ability to hear – both physically and intuitively; the connection between our sense of who we are inside and how we represent ourselves out in the world
• Color: Light Sky Blue
• Mantra: My thoughts are positive, and I always express myself truthfully and clearly
• Essential oils: Whisper, Lavender, Oregano, Birch, Basil, Bergamot, Roman Chamomile, Peppermint
• Apply topically to the posterior neck and the base of the occipital ridge

   Third Eye Chakra 

Our ability to focus on and see the big picture.

• Purpose: Intuition, Imagination, Wisdom, Ability to Think & Make Decisions
• Location: Forehead between the eyes
• Signs of Imbalance: Non-sympathetic/Empathetic, Judgemental, Over Intellectualizing, Lacks Intuition, Lacks Common Sense, Forgetful, Sleep/Dream/Nightmare Issues
• Ajna is the center of balanced intuition, psychic power, and the energies of the spirit
• Color: Deep Dark Blue
• Mantra: I forgive the past and learn what was there for me to learn. I seek to understand and to learn from my life experiences
• Essential oils: Frankincense, Clary Sage, Lemongrass, Immortelle, In Tune, PastTense, Cypress, Helichrysum, Marjoram, Patchouli, Rosemary, Sandalwood, Vetiver
• Apply topically to the middle of the forehead and above the eyebrows.

   The Crown Chakra 

Our ability to be fully connected spiritually, deeper understanding of ourselves beyond the physical or material.

• Purpose: Cognition, Connections to Spirituality & Higher Self, Life Purpse
• Location: The very top of the head
• Signs of Imbalance: Unspiritual, Feelings of Unbalanced Spirituality, Excessive Fear of Death, Unclear of Life or Spiritual Purpose, Feeling Alone in the Universe or Posessing a God-Complex, Feeling Unloved by or Angry at our Creator, Dementia, autoimmune disorders, epilepsy, coma, amnesia, migraines, brain tumors, cognitive delusions
• Sahasrara is the center for trust, devotion, inspiration, happiness, and positivity
• Color: Violet
• Mantra: I cherish my spirit. I seek experiences that nourish my spirit. I am at peace
• Essential Oils: Frankincense, Helichrysum, Lemon, Melissa, Roman Chamomile, Rosemary, Sandalwood, Zendocrine
• Apply to the crown of the head.

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Sources: In Love With Oils, Chakras

Ayurveda and Essential Oils

Ayurveda is a natural healing philosophy with roots in Indian culture, based on early literature from the Vedic period. Over the centuries, ayurvedic practitioners have developed medicinal procedures based on this philosophy.

Ayurveda is based on 5 elements including Ether, Earth, Water, Fire, and Air that compose both the human body and the world around us. These elements are grouped together to create three Doshas. Doshas are important because when they are in balance, the body will be healthy. When they are unbalanced, the body will be out of balance and less healthy.

Ayurvedic theory suggests that each human possesses a unique combination of the doshas and that they define the person’s character and attributes. Think of it as the grandfather philosophy of all of the personality type studies in modern times.

The Pitta Dosha is Fire and Water. The Kapha Dosha is Earth and Ether. The Vata Dosha is Ether and Air. A person can be strong in any one dosha but have attributes of all doshas.

Want to discover your prominent dosha? Take this Dosha Quiz by The Chopra Center.

Once you know your dosha, you can begin to help keep yourself in balance through following the aryuvedic principles for proper eating, exercise, meditation, and essential oils.

doTERRA’s certified pure therapeutic grade oils can be used to help balance the Doshas:

Pitta Dosha: Associated with the elements of fire and water, pittas are passionate and intense. They have a joyful disposition but they are subject to anger, jealousy, and short tempers when unbalanced. There is often a need to cool off and clarity the mind.

If you are a Pitta type, you may need calming and cooling oils to keep the fire element balanced. Oils such as Sandalwood, Ylang Ylang, and Lavender would be great for cooling and calming. Oils such as Grapefruit, Sweet Orange, and Lavender would be good for a refreshing massage. doTERRA’s Citrus Bliss Blend and Serenity Blend would be perfect for the Pitta type. As well as Lavender single oil. Find your essential oils here.



Vata Dosha: Associated with the elements of ether and air, vata types are quick thinking, thin, and fast moving. They are active and creative and have a natural ability to communicate. When unbalanced, vatas can have high anxiety and fast moving emotions.

If you are the Vata type, you may need oils that help to ground, balance, and warm your dosha. Oils such as basil, cypress, frankincense, geranium, and rosewood will help the vata stay balanced. doTERRA’s Whisper Blend and Balance Blend as well as Geranium single oil would be a good fit for Vata types. Add these oils to your routine.



Kapha Dosha: Associated with the elements of earth and water, kappa types are patient, forgiving and slow to anger. They are loving and become easily attached. When they are unbalanced, kaphas can become lazy or stubborn as well as greedy.

If you are the Kapha type, you may need oils to help help lift and stimulate. Oils such as rosemary, eucalyptus, marjoram, melissa, lemon, peppermint would help you stay balanced. doTERRA has two great blends for the Kapha type. Elevation Blend to lift you up and Breathe Blend to clear the air passages. Grapefruit single oil would also be an excellent to help with balance. All three of these oils can be found here.



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Everyday Yoga

Since I discovered the healing power of yoga some 10 years ago, I can't imagine a single day of my life without it. We've all seen the hashtag #yogaeverydamnday which has become quite the trend for fancy photos on Instagram. But it's more than that. Everyday yoga is about staying present, maintaining balance throughout the day, and continually riding a wave of calm energy as you pass through life. 

I do practice #yogaeverydamnday because I have to for myself, my family, and for the world around me. I came to a point where no matter how badly I wanted to do yoga, I just couldn’t find the time for it. With two young kids who never seem to want to sleep at the same time, it’s hard enough to find time for a shower let alone time to practice yoga.

I was frustrated. I was sore & stiff. I was even more frustrated because I was sore and stiff.

So I came up with a way to incorporate some highly beneficial yoga poses into everyday life – especially those things that can seem really mundane. These 5-minute yoga exercises are a combination of Hatha movements, Yin yoga holds, and a little Face yoga to keep you looking fresh.

How much time do you have?

Sometimes it really is only five minutes. As Buddha says, “meditate for 20 minutes every day. If you don’t have 20 minutes, then meditate for one hour.” I highly doubt that Buddha had to chase two toddlers around.

We live in a time-crunched society that glorifies being “busy” at all times. As much as we collectively need to slow down, all too often it just isn’t an option. We have families to care for, demanding jobs to keep up with, places to be, people to see...

Instead of making up for a stressful week with an hour-long class that finally fits in your schedule once a week, practice 5-minutes at a time every single day and watch as the transformation unfolds. You will find yourself more relaxed, more alert & present.

What is Yoga?

Literally translated, the word yoga means “union.” The exercises done in yoga paired with rhythmic & conscious breathing help to bridge the gap between the mind & the body. Yoga means something different to everyone. Sometimes I begin my classes by asking students if they could put into one word what they want out of their yoga and share it with the class. You might be surprised at the varying answers. Some want to relax, others want to gain strength, many are looking to find relief from pain. The one thing every one answer has in common is that underneath it all, it’s about feeling better.

The good thing about yoga is that it really is for everyone. You cannot be too old or too young, too big or too small for yoga. Yoga is inclusive to all beings.

Yoga is becoming more accessible by the day. If your town doesn’t have a yoga studio, you can take classes online 24 hours a day. There’s hot yoga, snowga (yes, yoga in the snow), paddleboard yoga, aerial yoga, kids yoga, yoga for seniors, Star Wars yoga… when I say there’s a yoga for everyone I mean everyone.

Quality over Quantity

Just because you don’t have a full hour to dedicate to a yoga class doesn’t mean that you can’t benefit from yoga. Five minutes of deep stretches or rhythmic movements paired with energizing or relaxed breathing can sometimes be more beneficial than a crowded room full of sweaty bodies. 

Follow me this week as I take you through some Everyday Yoga exercises accessible to ALL PEOPLE. 

How to Deal with an Overly Critical Person

Twas a wise little rabbit that once said, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all."

While that would be a much more pleasant world to live in, it's simply not the case.

Criticism can be a good thing when it's delivered in the right way and with the right context. How can we ever expect to grow if we are not honest with one another? Constructive criticism is delivered in a positive manner by offering valid opinions about the work of others. This kind of criticism encourages others to grow into a better version of themselves. Many of the great people we know in the world became that way because of constructive criticism.

Then there's the other kind of criticism. The kind of criticism that simply points out all of the negative aspects about a person or situation without offering any advice on improvement. While this criticism can be situation-specific, you may find that the people that deliver this criticism quite often do so in all aspects of their lives. An overly critical person is often hostile, withdrawn, and pessimistic.

Overly critical people often need help and guidance, so simply shutting them out wouldn't be the most fair approach. Here's a few ways to deal with an overly critical person.

Art by Matthew Hoffman

Try not to take it personally.
Often times a critical person is pointing out their own flaws or shortcomings, not yours. Avoid identifying yourself with the words of a critic. A person who criticizes will do so anyway, no matter what your actions or intentions may be. Your value does not decrease by someone else's words.

Hear the words, not the delivery.
Criticism is often paired with anger, frustration, and delivered at an increased volume. What is the point that is trying to be conveyed? Can it be addressed in a calm manner? Remember that the person who loses their temper has lost control of the situation. Stay in control, stay calm and try to listen to the words.

Respond with kindness.
How people treat other people is a reflection of how they feel about themselves. An overly critical person is likely battling many insecurities. Don't let them pull you into their storm, pull them into your peace. Change the subject by pointing out strengths rather than magnifying weaknesses.

Just because you listen doesn't mean you have to accept.
Some people just need to be heard. I feel that to be a basic human right. All too often, we listen only to respond and attempt to fix problems when we haven't been recruited to do so. It is not necessary to react to everything you hear. Simply lending an ear can make a big difference.

Avoid the situation.
When all else fails, remove yourself from the negativity. It's hard to live a positive life with a negative mind -- even when it's not your mind that is negative. Unfortunately, you cannot help a person who doesn't want to help themselves.

Face Yoga for Jaw Tension

Did you know that your jaw muscles are the strongest in your body for their size? These small but mighty muscles have the ability to chomp a human finger clean off.

The jaw muscles are comprised of four major muscles: the masseter, the temporalis, and the lateral & medial pterygoid.

A recent Chicago Dental Society survey reported that 1 out of every 4 Americans tense their jaw muscles excessively. This number was an all-time high and believed to be the result of increased stress in our daily lives.

If you're like 25% of the population, including me, you might find yourself tightening your jaw muscles without even noticing. Often when we are faced with a difficult task we tense -- whether it occurs at home or in the office, or even in our yoga practice during a particularly long hold or challenging pose. Excessive jaw clenching and tooth grinding can also cause headaches and tension in other areas of the body.

So let's put a stop to this, shall we?

It begins now, with our own awareness. It continues the rest of the day, and tomorrow, and the day after that. It is a constant reminder to care for yourself and remain aware of what's happening inside of your body.

5 Minute Face Yoga for Jaw Tension 

• Begin with 5 round of Lion's Breath (Inhale through the nose; Open the mouth & eyes wide as you stick your tongue out as far as it goes and exhale out the mouth, somewhat resembling the roar of a lion)
• Remove the tongue from the roof of the mouth
• Relax the very base of the tongue
• Keep the lips together, but slowly begin to separate the teeth
• Imagining that the chin has a pencil tip in the center, begin to draw figure-8's with your lower jaw. Do this for about a minute, reversing directions halfway through
• Keep the teeth separated, now curl the lips over the teeth and open the mouth as wide as possible, extending outward into the cheeks. Try not to let any other facial muscles tense. Hold for 5 breaths, then release
• From a tall supported spine, begin to circle your head clockwise with a loose neck 5 times, then 5 times in the opposite direction
• Come to stillness with a tall spine through the crown of the head
• Silently (or loudly) mouth your vowels (AEIOU) ten times
• Take 5 more rounds of Lion's Breath and relax the face

Repeat this sequence as many times as necessary to feel relief.

Another effective stretch is allowing the head to fall backward and the mouth to open as wide as possible. I like to use Supported Fish Pose for this stretch. Be careful not to place any discomfort on the neck or crunch the cervical spine with this one.

Tension is who think you should be. Relaxation is who you are. (Chinese proverb)

Slow Down & Simplify: 5 Minute Meditation

Have you ever noticed that in times of anxiety & stress, your breathing tends to be staggered, shallow, and high up in the chest? Pay attention next time you are feeling this way and you'll likely find this to be the case.

The reason we can feel so closed off, overwhelmed, and drained sometimes is that we've stopped the energy from flowing within our bodies.

Anxiety is usually caused by the brain working too hard by cultivating unnecessary thoughts, imaginary paths, worst-case scenario stories and illusions that often tend to consume our energy.

The brain requires more oxygen than any other organ in the body. When the oxygen intake is low, the brain is fed first and the body gets whatever is left... most likely, not enough to be aware of what's happening in the rest of the body.

It's a simple fix, really. Don't let the energy stop flowing. 

Meditation helps to calm the mind & relax the body, bringing you into the present moment -- the only moment where life truly exists.

5 Minute Simple Meditation

Find a comfortable seat that allows the breath to flow freely, a seat that feels balanced and can be easily maintained for a few minutes. If necessary, sit on a blanket or pillow so the knees naturally descend from the hips. Rest your hands on your thighs so that the elbows hang from the shoulders, removing any effort from there.

Allow your eyes to softly close and begin to shift into a state of mindful present awareness. Relax the base of your tongue,  soften the hinge of your jaw, and smooth out your forehead.

Find comfort in knowing that this place right here, right now, is exactly where you need to be. Nothing else matters. Let go of the pressure that attempts to take you away from this moment.

Listen to the sounds around you. Sounds that are far away, sounds that are close.

Now allow those sounds to fall silent and only listen to the sound of your breath. Find a gentle, calming rhythm to relax into.

Notice the thoughts in your mind, the sensations in your body, the rhythm of your breath. Don't try to silence your thoughts, you will find it to be a useless and frustrating task. Just notice them, be aware of them, but remain an observer without attaching any feelings. Start to peel away the layers of problems that cannot be solved at this moment, of thoughts that drain your energy, and things that make you feel anxious. Feel your shoulders and neck become lighter as the weight rolls off your back.

Now bring your awareness to the tip of your nose and feel your breath as it moves in and out of your body. Begin to deepen your inhalation and lengthen your exhalation, drawing out each breath as long as comfortably possible. As you inhale, feel your belly rise and chest expand, and as you exhale, feel the belly softly fall back toward your spine.

Allow any thoughts that come to mind play out like a movie on a screen, not fixating on one image for too long.

Bring your attention back to your body as a whole. Feel the energy pulsating within you, the vibratory quality of aliveness in your body.

Notice the path that energy flows through your body, and begin to notice any areas where the energy may seem blocked, heavy, or simply in need of attention.

Imagine you are able to change the route of your breath to send it to those areas that need your attention. Each inhale draws in fresh energy to cleanse and heal, and each exhale creates a pathway for heavy feelings or dead energy to exit the body.

Breathe here for as long as you feel necessary.

When you are ready, bring your attention back to your body. Take a few breaths to ground yourself and arrive back into your space. Notice the thoughts, feelings, and sensations in your body. Slowly open your eyes and take in the brilliance that is the world around you. Try to maintain this feeling of mindful present awareness for the rest of the day. 

Yoga Helps Me Be a Better Parent (and vice versa)

Balance. It's something every yogi practices in their physical body. That shaky feeling in your tree pose can easily be stabilized with steady breathing and clear focus. Balancing in my yoga practice has usually come fairly easy to me, but my balance has never been tested as much as when my family began to grow.

We had 2 kids less than 2 years apart, and needless to say it was quite an adjustment. As stressful as it was at times, I wouldn't change a thing for the world. Among the many, many things that my son and daughter have taught me about love and life, they've inspired me to strengthen my yoga practice and become a more confident teacher.

Finding my center in crow pose? No problem.
Balancing work, family, home, a relationship with my spouse, meal planning, doctor visits, a social life, diaper changes, laundry... then somehow finding time for myself in there? Alignment cues don't do much for real world problems, but many aspects of yoga have helped me grow into a stronger and more confident parent.

Many yogis may know that the physical practice of asana is just the tip of the iceberg. Here's a few ways that my sweet children have encouraged my yoga, and how my yoga has strengthened my parenting.

You're a Master on Adjustments

During pregnancy your body changes a LOT and you've got to find comfort somehow. I learned a heck of a lot about my body through pregnancy. Like where my sciatic nerve is for example -- yikes. But it forces you to learn your anatomy a little better and in a way that you really retain. I also pay a lot more attention to our childrens' anatomy. When my son woke up with a sore neck, he was delighted to join me for some neck circles and shoulder rolls.

Monkey See Monkey Do

Kids are little sponges, especially in those glorious toddler years. They become tiny little parrots revealing the good and the bad things about what they see in the world around them. No matter what you say to them -- especially when it's what not to do -- they see through that if your actions don't agree with your words. It can be the sweetest and the most terrifying thing all at once. We had to remove some words from our vocabulary shortly after certain words started popping out of our son's mouth. But it can also be a wonderful thing. Take for instance my son, who caringly attempted to comfort his cousin in the midst of a crying fit by showing her how to take deep breaths. My heart was soaring. In short, if you want your kids to be good role models, look into the mirror and see what they see.

The same can be said of students in a yoga practice. Two teachers can teach the exact same class and it will still be different. The teacher who teaches from the heart and from true knowledge will connect with students more, and will empower them with that passion. Be present in every moment and live what you feel in your heart.

Because My Family Counts on Me

It's quite a struggle caring for others when you can't care for yourself. I know that because I've lived it. Being overworked, overtired -- fuses get shorter and tension grows higher. It's not fair to make your loved ones suffer because you can't take care of yourself. Use your energy wisely. Do something that makes you feel alive, like you matter, and like you are special. When I take my kids to the park, I like to practice my handstands against the tall trees because it reminds me that I get to have fun, too. So be responsible and take time for you.

Use Support

My yoga classes usually call for blocks, straps, bolsters, blankets... pretty much anything available. We don't always use them, but as I tell my students I'd rather have them and not need them than vice versa. Sure, you can practice your forward bend without any tools, but wouldn't that block to support your head really make it more enjoyable? And the cushy pad of a blanket under your bum? Then why not make it the most accessible version for you? The same can be said of balancing the needs of your family. Ask your partner to load the dishes, send the kids to Grandpa's house for a sleepover, or just take a break when you feel exhausted. Use all of the support available to you and don't feel guilty about it. Using support does not mean you are lazy, it means you are wise.

It's Still About You

Yoga has become so sacred to me since our family has expanded, because it has become the only time I really have just for me. After you have kids, priorities change a heck of a lot. It's not all about you anymore. But just because it's not all about you doesn't mean your life ceases to exist or your passions fizzle out. I'll admit that after giving birth twice and nursing each for a whole year I felt like I was little more than a vessel or a tool to sustain this life I've created. But after that first year it gets easier. You learn to ask for help when you need it and slowly you get little bits of 'me time' here and there. Yoga makes me feel alive, so that is how I spend 'my time.' Whatever it is, do what makes you feel like you.


Parenting is not an easy job. It's challenging on its own and even more challenging when you have to balance your time & energy between a career and a family. Everybody has bad days, but love always shines through. No matter how much frustration and exhaustion show through, the gleam of unconditional love is always there and nothing can change that.

Releasing Anger Toward Yourself

I had just wrapped up a week of classes exploring the 8 limbs of yoga. We focused on ahimsa, or non-harming, then moved onto santosha (contentment). I spent extra time planning classes that week. My regular students are so kind and so thirsty for knowledge that I felt like I had to come prepared with fresh fun ideas. To be honest, I was diving into material I hadn't studied in 4 years. Here I was reading these words that I'd studied, teaching a class that had been recycled a few times, without really being able to connect to the words that came out of my mouth. I was angry with myself for not having enough time to pour my heart into what I do. When I got home from work, I was angry at myself for not spending enough time with my kids. 

Even though I love my job and it brings me so much joy, I'd been working too much. I was losing steam and I knew it. This is what helped fuel the anger. My boyfriend lost his job and we'd finally started the serious discussion about getting married. The only thing that held us back? Money. It's amazing how clever the universe can be.

The pressure kept building and the need to be successful was growing. One day after yet another discussion about marriage, a person I care about a lot was put in a compromising position because of me. Sane Sarah says be calm, breathe, and stay in control -- practice what you preach, right? If only... I blew up and dug myself a hole which will take a while to repair. Once the ground is broken, it can never truly be mended. 

I was really angry with myself. Once again I'd let my anger get the best of me. I was ashamed, embarrassed, and worst of all is that I was mean. Really mean to a person that I love so dearly. I felt a heaviness against my chest like I couldn't breathe. Who was this person? What was this anger inside of me?

Change the Internal Dialogue

I was filling this void in my life with unhealthy habits -- junk food, mindless television, alcohol. Basically, I was filling this toxic environment with even more crap to stew on.

I had been holding onto this feeling of inadequacy because I wasn't married. We tend to get fooled into this thinking that everything will be better once we make more money/get a better job/finally share the same last name as your children and the man you love. But it's not like that. It never will be. 

I failed to see what was already in front of me. I was searching for this validation through working too hard and exhausting myself, as if trying to prove something to the world -- or maybe just to myself.

The real truth is that the only way to release anger is with love. 

If you want to create a loving relationship with the world, you have to love yourself first. Take care of yourself. Don't be so hard on yourself. It won't happen overnight and it is not easy, but it is worth it. Of all the people in the universe, you are most deserving of your own love. 

Be an observer of your thoughts & feelings.

You are not ruled by your emotions. You can sit there and beat yourself up over mistakes & stew on your anger, or you can acknowledge these thoughts and feelings, allow them to unfold while remaining in your present state of mind. Your emotions should not feel like bondage being put upon you -- the bondage is all in your making.

Make time for peace & quiet.

Be alone with your thoughts often. Address the struggles in your life and really take the time to see how you feel -- mentally and physically. Take time to connect with your breath and clear your mind. Slow everything down. 

Let it go.

All the anger, sadness, anxiety, heaviness. It drains your energy. Forgive others, forgive yourself. 

Love.

Stay Calm on a Tough Day with Stress Busting Breath

Some days, life is tough from the get-go. Anxiety and stress can build up so much that you're left feeling vacant, empty, and just plain worthless.

Some days the weight of the world is just too heavy.

And when it all builds up, it can feel like life is enjoying watching you struggle, as you feel like you've been handed one shitty hand after another.

It's easy to feel drained, angry, and sad when things don't go smoothly. It's even easier to look for someone or something to blame. Someone I love dearly likes to proclaim, "God is laughing at me!" when he's having a bad day.

The truth that many of us forget is that no one can make you feel any certain way. 

While outside forces may have a great deal on the mood that we outwardly project, every feeling we display is a choice of our own.

The happiest people in the world don't have perfect lives filled with rainbows and butterflies, they've just made the decision to be happy.

The trick is taking control over these feelings and consciously deciding whether or not to let them affect your mood. Sure, someone cut you off in traffic--but how will getting angry and yelling at that person affect the situation? You'll get yourself more worked up, leading to more anger, more anxiety and continue on a downward spiral.

So how do we face stress, anxiety, sadness, and anger head-on with a smile on our faces?

Practice the following breath for 2-5 minutes, or until the stress has subsided. 

Stress Busting Breath

Find a quiet place where you can close your eyes and find silence for a few minutes. Take a seat or lie down. Close your eyes. Place hands on the belly, chest, or relax them at your sides. This breath will be practiced through the nose.

• Inhale deeply into your belly for 4 seconds
• Hold that breath in for 4 seconds
• Exhale completely for 4 seconds

Each time you exhale, think about attaching any heavy or negative feelings to that breath and invite softness to replace those points of tension. As you practice this breath over time, see if you can begin to extend the inhale, adding one second on each few breaths. See if you can gradually work your way up to doubling the duration of your exhale as compared to your inhale. 

When this breath is finished, come back to your normal nasal breath and rest for a few moments before you return back to "the real world." Set an intention that will help you maintain this feeling for the rest of the day, such as I am happy, I am well, I am peaceful (credit to Bhante Sujatha for this mantra) or something of the sort. 

Each time you feel your calm self being compromised, come back to this mantra, and back this breathing exercise if necessary. 

Be calm, be happy, be peaceful. You deserve to enjoy your life and live it in a happy manner, no matter what the circumstances. 

EO Spotlight: Balance

Yoga 101: The Breath of Joy

Let's get back to the basics. No matter how many breathing cues I give, I can never give enough. Isn't it funny that we have so many things on our minds that we need someone to remind us to breathe? 

Life is busy. Just because you don’t have a full hour to dedicate to a yoga class doesn’t mean that you can’t benefit from yoga. Five minutes of deep stretches or rhythmic movements paired with energizing or relaxed breathing can sometimes be more beneficial than a crowded room full of sweaty bodies. 

I've decided to break down some of my favorite breathing exercises on a weekly basis in hopes that we can all benefit from them as much as possible. 

Enjoy.

Breath of Joy (Energizing)

• From standing, extend your arms out to the sides of the body like one straight line out the shoulders. Turn your palms up and relax your shoulders. Try to make yourself longer laterally starting from the middle of the chest
• Keeping this same open and lifted feeling in the chest, inhale and reach your arms up toward the sky. You may feel like you look like the letter Y.
• Begin to exhale as you bend your knees and fold forward from the waist. Swing your arms down toward the ground and allow them to stretch down & back behind you. I like to think of this like diving into a pool. You can let your torso fall onto your thighs to allow that exhale to reach a little deeper.
• Inhale and swing the arms out the side then up overhead as you rise back up to stand. 
• Repeat 10 times. 

Yoga for the Blood Moon

Being a self-proclaimed "moon loonie," I've been anticipating the arrival of this blood moon for quite some time now. (Read: What is a Blood Moon? via EarthSky)

It only seems fitting that I am scheduled to teach tonight, and cannot wait to harvest the lunar energy & share the yin-inspired and calming flows with my classes. Also, super excited that my Luna pants from Be Present are nice and clean, so perfect for tonight's classs

We'll be practicing the classic Chandra Namaskar in our Beginner's Yoga class, and digging a little deeper with Shiva Rea's Soma Manadala Namaskar in addition to the journey to Revolved Half Moon in our Multi-Level class.

Every month, the moon salutation is practiced to bring more yin aspects into a dominantly yang world. We flow through this sequence to channel the calming lunar energy, opening our bodies and minds to peace and relaxation.

Tonight's mantra is as follows: I am calm, I am comforted.

Stay tuned for a fun sequence, or come join me tonight at The Yoga Mat to harness the lunar energy!

Bridge the Gap & Keep the Chi Flowing

Saying that Breath & Yoga are like Peanut Butter & Jelly wouldn't even do the pair justice... it's more like Peanut Butter and Peanuts -- as in, without Breath, Yoga would not exist.

As simple as it seems, breathing correctly can be the most difficult part of our practice... the same can be said of life as well. Shallow breaths and poor posture add unnecessary stress to the body and mind.

This is why yoga teachers place such a HUGE emphasis on breathing -- inhale to plank, exhale chaturanga, inhale up dog... that being said, even when the breathing cues are right on point, it doesn't mean that we are breathing correctly. Just when you think it couldn't get any more confusing, right? It's not as difficult as it seems!

One of the biggest takeaways from Yoga is bridging the gap between the body & the mind. And how do we attain this? Why, through breath of course!

When we think about how we breathe, the most direct channel between the body & mind is the neck. If the neck is constantly out of alignment, this channel is interrupted (think waterfall static on an old antenna TV). When our shoulders are rounded forward, neck arched and strained, our breath has to work a lot harder to make it from our lungs to our brain.

Don't believe me? Drop your chin down to your chest and try to breathe. Then tilt your head back and try to breathe. Now bring your head right atop your shoulders, bring your fingertips to the back of your neck and feel for softness in your neck muscles (if they're hard keep sending the head back and gently tucking the chin until they become soft). Now try to breathe. Can you feel that direct channel in action? Much easier, right?

This is what carries our chi or life force through our body. Once we lose that pathway, it's no longer yoga -- it's more like torture. Twisting, turning and stretching the body without proper fuel (breath) is like attempting to run a marathon while dehydrated.

Do you ever get that stiff feeling after looking at the phone or computer too long? How about that scrunchy crunchy feeling in a pose like Utkatasana (chair) or Navasana (boat), like you're so crunched that all you can think of is your closest escape route? How long is she going to keep us here? My legs/abs can't handle this! 

When we get stuck in our heads, we lose our yoga. If we're not breathing correctly, we lose the benefit of the pose.

Simple fix: Keep that channel open.

No matter where you are -- in yoga class, at your desk, computer, on the train or driving in the car -- make that conscious effort to keep that pathway clear of obstructions. Don't get caught in your head. Allow your heart to communicate effectively with your mind, and feel the simple difference.

Here's a few basic adjustments to keep your chi flowing:

• Bring your fingertips behind your neck, bring your ears in line with your shoulders and feel for softness on the back of your neck
• Rest the base of your wrist on your sternum and bring your index finger to touch your lip & chin. This should be roughly the right alignment for your chin
• Send the shoulders up toward your ears, then straight back and let your shoulder blades slide down your back
• Lift your chest from the back of your heart (think inbetween your shoulder blades). This is where we retreat to when we feel threatened

Turning Inside: When Yoga isn't Asana

My favorite part of every day is when I get an hour of silence as the kids nap and I am able to practice my yoga asana (physical pratice). Don't get me wrong, I love my babies to death and feel like the luckiest mom in the world to have them in my life--but with 2 toddlers, Mom sure loves a break.

I've carried the tension of flat feet and scoliosis for my entire life, so once I discovered the relief that the physical aspect of yoga brought me, I mentally wrote myself a prescription to practice every single day.

Nap time could not have come sooner yesterday. I had been collecting thoughts all morning about what I'd bring to my mat today--things to introduce to my students and things to explore on my own.

12:30 finally came and I laid out my mat. And that was it. I kept looking at my mat, trying to find a place to begin, and it just wasn't happening.

So there I sat, staring at my mat, wanting so badly to practice--wanting to want to practice--but I simply couldn't bring myself to it. I sat there for about 10 minutes until I finally grunted and left the room.

I sank my seat right in the middle of my comfy bed and wrapped myself in blankets. I couldn't help but feel discouraged and a bit angry with myself. Why couldn't I bring myself to practice my asana today?

I decided to sit there in silence, shut my eyes to the world, and review all of the feelings that surged through my body (there just happened to be a lot that particular day).

Breathing deeply, I began asking myself What's wrong? What hurts? What do you need? 

I felt an unusual amount of tension in my shoulders, lower back, feet, and forehead. So I just kept breathing, attempting to send some softness to those areas, but all I kept feeling was pain.

Suddenly, I felt a wave of sadness wash over me and decided to ride the wave instead of fight it... and then I cried. A lot... and then it finally came to me--the clarity I was looking for. Riding this wave of intense feelings instead of sulking my way through the day was exactly what I needed. I came to the realization that I needed and made peace with my sadness.

I felt far from happy afterwards, but those feelings of anger & frustration were gone. The truth that I desperately was searching for was revealed, and instead of displacing those feelings of discouragement and hopelessness, I found peace in my sadness.

Even though we tend to place such a huge emphasis on the physical aspect of yoga (because it just feels good), it is just the tip of the iceberg. Yoga is about turning inwards to find out what is really ailing us. My lower back hurts, and it sure could use a nice supported bridge right now, but why? Maybe we won't always find the answers we're looking for, but finding acceptance with ourselves--body and mind--is the biggest takeaway of my yoga practice today.

Relieve Sinus Pressure with Essential Oils

This winter has literally dragged on forever. Chicago has had snow on the ground since the first week of December--that's over 4 months straight of snow! On top of that, we've battled vicious winds and subzero temperatures like I've never experienced before. So basically, our family has spent a great deal of time indoors lately.

As much as I love a snuggly blanket with the heat cranked on a cold day, too much of that dry & stale air leads to sickness. I have personally been battling sinus congestion in many different forms since Thanksgiving. Nasal sprays and medicine only provide little relief, if any, and sadly the Neti Pot is just not doing the trick.

Enter my sweet yoga colleague, Sarah (check out her awesome blog, Sage and Sunshine) and her endless wisdom about the power of essential oils. She introduced me to this amazing blend of oils that is not only safe & natural, but works instantly.

Here's the recipe for the headache killer: 

• Oregano Essential Oil
• Lemon Essential Oil
• Peppermint Essential Oil
• Melaleuca (Tea Tree) Essential Oil

Combine 2 drops of each into a cup of boiling water and begin to inhale deeply through the nose. 

Really though, does it get any easier than that?! Here's a little more info on the oils and how they work:

Check out Sarah's essential oil shop for more info here on her DoTerra Oil Shop.

Bring Heat to your Practice to Get Back on Track

Feeling pretty off lately -- lack of sleep combined with not enough fresh air due to the never-ending sub-zero winter we've had in Chicago have finally taken their toll and I'm just feeling down. Can't get motivated, can't even sleep, didn't want to practice my yoga today... and that's when I realized how much I needed to get on my mat.

And that's when I am -- once again -- eternally grateful for the bright soul that is Kathryn Budig.

Not only was her YogaGlo class exactly what I needed to get back on track, she paired it with exactly what I needed to hear:

"Sometimes we need a level of heat to get us so far away from the story that we've created in our head. We tend to stick by the story we've created, regardless of what's happening in front of us. Sometimes you need to create this fire in your practice to burn through these illusions and you'll eventually see straight again. Then its no longer a workout, it's a channel back to seeing clearly, to being whole again." -Kathryn Budig